One of my greatest regrets is how I could do so much better if I learned some simple but effective lessons and life skills early on.
Here is a list I compiled of lessons that I wish I was granted by a mentor or through education system. Although I’ve learned this lessons late, they are still very useful and I benefit from implementing them immensely.
So here is the list of most important lessons that I wish I new when I was a teen:
- There are tree extraordinary skills in regards to learning that can change one’s life:
- Learning how to learn.
- Choosing what to learn.
- Finding best resources to learn.
- Figure out how you learn best. You won’t enjoy learning if you don’t learn in the way that best suits the way your brain works
- Question all advice you are given: Most advice is bad advice.
- Make learning joyful. Learning is both intrinsically rewarding but also the key to greater life satisfaction.
- Don’t be afraid to ask “dumb” questions. Asking dumb questions makes you smart.
- Invest in understanding and developing yourself. To understand the world and make it better, you must understand yourself and develop yourself into someone capable of making it better
- Learn how to listen. You will not be able to understand and appreciate other people if you don’t listen lovingly.
- Always be open to change your mind. Truth is absolute, while what we consider truth might only be our understanding of it or a believe based on false information.
- There is great joy in seeking truth, specially that which seems elusive; and to explore the beauty of mysteries of the universe is one of the most fulfilling personal experiences one can attain.
- Learn to sit alone with your thoughts. Ask yourself questions that are uncomfortable and confront your mistakes.
- Learn Psychology.
- Learn about human nature through behavior psychology. Not only it’s beneficial to psychological self-care, but it’s an important life skill.
- Learn negotiation skills. This skill will have the greatest contribution in your success.
- Learn Evolutionary Psychology. Learning the root of many human behaviors and biases can alleviate the stress of observing harmful human behaviors and provide greater understanding.
- Learn Self-Care as it’s the skill that keeps your mind healthy.
Work & Life
- Burnout is real and truly hurts. And worst of all, even your passions can suffer from it.
- Sleep is sacred. Sleep recharges everything that makes you extraordinary.
- Appreciate life & unique experience it granted you. That’s how life becomes meaningful.
- Live by design, not by default. Life will be full of suffering if you don’t live it on your own terms
- Discover and use your superpowers. Everyone has different gifts they can unleash for their own and others’ benefit.
- Learn how to set goals. If you are not setting your goals, your goals will be set by people who don’t have your interests at heart.
- Learn how to say “no”. To take the path that is defined by societal and family expectations without understanding who you are, and what you want in life is a betrayal of self.
- Stay organized. A cluttered physical and digital spaces create a cluttered mind and lower focus.
- Take risks. Most smart people are less successful than others because they don’t take the risks because they calculated it’s risks, and lose the opportunity that is available.
- Structure and priorities you life into a framework. Work toward what you love, in a adaptable and improvable process.
- Pursue what motivates you. It’s the key to making a happy and joyful life.
- Money is a tool. Don’t pursue money just to get rich or successful; it’s a means, not an end.
- Track your thoughts. write daily, weekly, and monthly reflections and review them. it’s the key to knowing yourself better.
- Cultivate deeply meaningful relationships. Connecting with people is the most rewarding thing you will do.
- Find and foster community. A loving support system is essential to your development and success.
- Express gratitude as often as you can.
- Communication is key to creating shared understanding and cooperation.
- Your time and attention is the most expensive gift you can give others. don’t waste it.
- Learn negotiation skills.
- To Create is divine. Always have something in mind that needs to be build.
- Build things that empower people. Humanity will only overcome the many crises we face if we radically improve our ability to help people realize their potential.
- Create value, but don’t depend on external validation.
- Create a Personal Knowledge-Base (PKM) of life lessons, skills and advice you find useful; Make it your magnum opus. It solidifies your knowledge and can be something you leave for your next generation.
- Perfection is the enemy of a creator. Always make things that are good enough, then if needed improve and perfect them.
- Take time to make sense of the world. Your ability to make good choices depends on your ability to understand the environments in which you are making the choices
- Learn how to think systematically and without biases and fallacies. Independent thinking is the key to liberating yourself; and the key skill that develops it is Cognitive Dissonance.
- Learn how to judge and avoid false conclusions. that which can’t be judged properly can’t be improved.
- Master this concepts:
- Logical Fallacies
- Cognitive Biases
- Mental Models
- Practice Philosophical Razors such as Occam’s razor, Sagan standard, Hitchens razor, etc…
- Understand Philosophical Schools of thought, then practice them while keeping an open mind. Personally I follow principles of Stoicism in my life, and Rationalism and Empiricism frameworks to understand the world.